Something to remember

I think one of the most important things to remember is that if you focus on yourself and on achieving your goals, you will rarely go wrong. When you invest in yourself you open up the way for other areas of your life to go right. Focusing on yourself isn't selfish, it is smart investing. Focusing on yourself is not putting your eggs all in one basket, as long as your mind is open. At this point in my life I am guarded and suspicious of mostly everyone. Getting out of a long relationship shook my faith in trusting people, I am the one person i can trust. In time I will be able to trust people again, but I do need that time. Getting hurt is no fun, and it is naturally something you try to protect yourself from. I'm really not sure what or who I want right now, but i do know what makes me happy. The plan is to do what makes me happy and just be okay with letting whatever is supposed to happen follow.

love

"I've loved you since the first time I saw you. It just... happened, like rain or sunshine. You can't change something like that." -In the Land of the Long White Cloud

It's amazing what a deep breath can do

Sometimes it is hard to decide what is truly best for yourself. Most of the time, in my case (and probably a lot of other people's cases), In my heart i know what is best for me, but i do what makes me feel better at the time. Fortunately, I know that this is how i operate and this time i am going to try to actually do what in the long term is going to help me the most. It is always harder when other people's feelings are involved, of course, but you must do what you feel is best. What i am getting used to is taking a deep breath and taking a step back from my emotions and trying to be aware that my outlook on a situation determines how i will feel about it. I had gotten so far from the fact that my happiness is number one, that i have to get used to putting myself first. The past month has been really good though, i feel the best about myself than i have in a long time. There are always going to be moments of struggle, but I am learning how to deal with that. 
       It seems like ever since I have changed my attitude, good things have been falling into my lap. I've been able to spend some really quality time with some of my best friends, I've let go a lot and found myself just laughing and being happy without any conditions to fear. Another funny change I have noticed in myself is how i make plans. I don't, basically. I've just been letting life happen and not trying to plan my life out so much. I've found that the level of stress in my life has dropped off, and i can finally really relax. Feeling good has made me feel even better. There were times in my life that i actually believed that i may not ever feel this good again. Thinking about that, and how close it seems i had been to giving up, is pretty sad. Maybe I wasn't as close as I think though, I mean here i am today doing pretty good I'd say. I don't want to make any real plans about what my future is going to look like, but I can pretty surely say that I think it's gonna be real fucking cool.

Find myself

"I try to find myself in things, but never quite make it, and end up losing myself in them."

-A New Earth

A new leaf

I am inspired to write today, for i feel that the new leaf I have turned over deserves to be written about. The last month of my life is like i turned around and started in a completely new direction, one that i may have traveled on quite some time ago and somehow got lost. I'm quite happy to have found my way again. I've learned that sometimes in order to embraced the change you need in your life you have to take some risks and make some unexpected decisions. Just deciding one day to buy a ticket to Los Angeles was apparently just what i needed to wake myself up from the proverbial sleep I'd been immersed in. I don't mean to say this to knock the last few years, I say it simply because it is the truth. 
                  I deeply appreciate the simplest things now. I feel closer to knowing myself now than i have in a long time, i feel in control and it is wonderful. I was driving to my grandparents house the other day and I was admiring the beautiful fall leaves and the sunshine like I'd never seen them before in my life. I think about the fact that my grandfather is doing so well only 3 days after having brain surgery and it's like nothing in the world has mattered so much, and nothing could drag me down. Instead of just being complacent to what i want and making my decision based so firmly on someone else I can actually just think about myself and be selfish in a way that is 100% acceptable, in my opinion.